You deserve better than this. You deserve to live up to your full potential, and that means being honest about when you’re not living up to your own standards.

I know it’s easy to fall into the habit of not-good-enough-routines, but please stop pretending to be okay with your shortcomings.

Stop gaslighting your own potential, and stop accepting the cycle of shame, avoidance, and unconscious self-sabotage because you refuse to acknowledge and actualise your untapped ambition.

Self compassion isn’t good enough, and not everything is trauma.

Think of your bad behaviours and poor choices as weights that are holding you down. You may not even realise how heavy they are until you try to lift them off, but the good news is that you can lift them off if you’re willing to stop accepting your own missed intentions.

Not everything is a trauma response which requires years of healing. You have the power to change your behaviour and make better choices quickly.

It won’t be easy. It will take self-discipline and self-love.

You’ll need to be patient with yourself and forgive yourself when you slip up, but don’t confuse apathetic acceptance with patient compassion.

Hold yourself accountable. Enlist the help of a friend or therapist, and celebrate your success along the way. You’re doing something difficult, and that deserves self-recognition

Practically speaking, I want you to identify your bad behaviours and poor choices. Write them down and stop perpetuating them. Break the cycle by replacing destructive behaviours with neutral behaviours.

Remember, you are capable of change.

Not everything is a trauma response.

Don’t accept anything less than your potential, and stop self-rationalising behaviours you don’t respect.

If you want to change, then change.

Jordan