A perfect boundary is partially close and yet somewhat distant - it should be tangible, and visible, and with enough integrity to protect your essence behind the perimeter of your outwards identity.

Don’t build boundaries too close to your heart.

Please pay attention, have you forgotten the safety of building your boundaries at an arms-length and not directly on-top of your naked chest?

There’s a beautiful buffer when you build a good boundary, a true buffer, something that feels like an exhale between the world of safety and the world of threat.

Practically speaking, I want you to stop relying on last stands and dramatic, final defences.

Set your boundaries a few steps ahead of your actual, non-negotiable centre.

Life will feel safer and more certain.

Your life, your values, your standards - they shouldn’t feel like they’re at risk of imminent invasion… and they won’t, not if you build your boundaries at an arms-length.

It’s important to observe that physical and energetic boundaries are not only defensive structures: your boundaries are an extension, they always reach into space, and your boundaries likewise define and close the distance between situations.

I consider it wise to build your protection at a safe measure from your central vulnerabilities, especially if you’re dealing with uncooperative or unconsciously leeching individuals.

Be confident, lay down your soulful standards, and pay attention to the fact that your golden shadow cannot materialise any further or closer than the reach of the standards you expect from yourself.

Hold the space between your inner well and your outer walls: stand strong in your centre; allow the barrage of burdens; allow the creeping challenges; supply the space for life to crash into the nothingness you prepared between the world of threat and the world of safety.

Let your struggles stumble upon the periphery of your serenity - your boundary is your protector, your boundary is your peace, and you need not move an inch when the wounds fall flat before your feet.

Don’t build boundaries too close to your heart.

Jordan